The joys of internet dating. Or lack thereof.

[lothiriel_1]

About a month ago, I updated my profile on Match.com to reflect that I'm interested in men (it was originally set for women, but it appears that there aren't any quality single women in my area).

Since making the updates, I've gotten several "winks". Here's where I start shaking my head in dismay. Seriously, do people actually READ the profiles they click on before choosing the "wink" option? My main beef is with the ones who apparently have no concept of distance. My profile says that I'm looking for people within a certain distance radius from me. I wouldn't mind adding on another 10-20 miles for someone who really piques my interest, but really, Alabama? California? South Carolina? The U.K.? Long distance relationships don't work for me - it makes spending quality time with someone difficult.

And the "no smokers" thing? That is NOT NEGOTIABLE. Any winks from someone with a profile that states he's a smoker in some capacity will get an immediate "no thanks" response. Also, my definition of "physically fit" does not normally include people who have more chins than a Beijing telephone directory. Sorry.

Dating sucks.

Comments

[elissa-carey.livejournal.com]

Actually, it's more that internet dating where men are involved that sucks. 90% of them do a lot of stupid crap just like you describe. Those guys don't read, just like you said; they just see a face/figure they like the look of. It's the other 10% that can make it worthwhile, but oh what bullshit you have to go through to find them or get them.

Are you paying for Match.com, or using a free trial?

Also, consider this: there may be (or should be!) quality women in your area, but simply aren't sending you winks. Not necessarily because they don't like you, but because of our natural reticence to make the first move. I'm going to assume that you have been sending winks and such, though, because you're smart like that. :)

[etainwilson.livejournal.com]

Yes. It does.

[etainwilson.livejournal.com]

I have a paid membership on equestrian singles and am having about the same luck btw.

[littlemissangel.livejournal.com]

They shouldn't even have that stupid winks option on serious dating sites. It takes absolutely NO effort and no, they probably don't even look your profile over very well.