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lothiriel_1About a month ago, I updated my profile on Match.com to reflect that I'm interested in men (it was originally set for women, but it appears that there aren't any quality single women in my area).
Since making the updates, I've gotten several "winks". Here's where I start shaking my head in dismay. Seriously, do people actually READ the profiles they click on before choosing the "wink" option? My main beef is with the ones who apparently have no concept of distance. My profile says that I'm looking for people within a certain distance radius from me. I wouldn't mind adding on another 10-20 miles for someone who really piques my interest, but really, Alabama? California? South Carolina? The U.K.? Long distance relationships don't work for me - it makes spending quality time with someone difficult.
And the "no smokers" thing? That is NOT NEGOTIABLE. Any winks from someone with a profile that states he's a smoker in some capacity will get an immediate "no thanks" response. Also, my definition of "physically fit" does not normally include people who have more chins than a Beijing telephone directory. Sorry.
Dating sucks.
Since making the updates, I've gotten several "winks". Here's where I start shaking my head in dismay. Seriously, do people actually READ the profiles they click on before choosing the "wink" option? My main beef is with the ones who apparently have no concept of distance. My profile says that I'm looking for people within a certain distance radius from me. I wouldn't mind adding on another 10-20 miles for someone who really piques my interest, but really, Alabama? California? South Carolina? The U.K.? Long distance relationships don't work for me - it makes spending quality time with someone difficult.
And the "no smokers" thing? That is NOT NEGOTIABLE. Any winks from someone with a profile that states he's a smoker in some capacity will get an immediate "no thanks" response. Also, my definition of "physically fit" does not normally include people who have more chins than a Beijing telephone directory. Sorry.
Dating sucks.
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Date: 2008-11-17 04:00 pm (UTC)The Alabama wink came in this weekend. Geez. READ, people!
I did set up a profile on OKCupid, at Elissa's suggestion. I haven't decided whether I like the format of the site or not (what's up with all the freaking questions?!?), but it's free, and I can specify that I'm bi. I'll give it a shot, but I didn't find too many interesting prospects during my search yesterday. I did send a "woo" (?) and a message to one guy. No response as of this morning before I left for work.
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Date: 2008-11-17 04:27 pm (UTC)I used to be on one of those sites and had the same problem... guys in other states, smokers, hunters, heavy-duty Christians... they were all writing to me when I clearly put my interests and what I was NOT interested in on my profile.
I hope you have more luck with that site. I never tried that one. Have you tried Yahoo personals? I tried that briefly though you have to pay. The good thing about paid accounts (as long as they aren't stupidly expensive) is that guys who pay for an account sometimes make more of an effort to send an actual message rather than just a wink.