The joys of internet dating. Or lack thereof.

[lothiriel_1]

About a month ago, I updated my profile on Match.com to reflect that I'm interested in men (it was originally set for women, but it appears that there aren't any quality single women in my area).

Since making the updates, I've gotten several "winks". Here's where I start shaking my head in dismay. Seriously, do people actually READ the profiles they click on before choosing the "wink" option? My main beef is with the ones who apparently have no concept of distance. My profile says that I'm looking for people within a certain distance radius from me. I wouldn't mind adding on another 10-20 miles for someone who really piques my interest, but really, Alabama? California? South Carolina? The U.K.? Long distance relationships don't work for me - it makes spending quality time with someone difficult.

And the "no smokers" thing? That is NOT NEGOTIABLE. Any winks from someone with a profile that states he's a smoker in some capacity will get an immediate "no thanks" response. Also, my definition of "physically fit" does not normally include people who have more chins than a Beijing telephone directory. Sorry.

Dating sucks.

Comments

[elissa-carey.livejournal.com]

Actually, it's more that internet dating where men are involved that sucks. 90% of them do a lot of stupid crap just like you describe. Those guys don't read, just like you said; they just see a face/figure they like the look of. It's the other 10% that can make it worthwhile, but oh what bullshit you have to go through to find them or get them.

Are you paying for Match.com, or using a free trial?

Also, consider this: there may be (or should be!) quality women in your area, but simply aren't sending you winks. Not necessarily because they don't like you, but because of our natural reticence to make the first move. I'm going to assume that you have been sending winks and such, though, because you're smart like that. :)

[lothiriel-1.livejournal.com]

I'm actually paying for the service. Sigh...

Honestly, I think that some of these bozos put in the barest parameters for a search, and then send winks to everyone who pops up, hoping for a response. Guess I'm a wee bit more picky than that.

And yeah, I sent out a few winks to women. They're routinely ignored - not even the courtesy of a "no, thanks".

Did I mention that dating sucks?

[elissa-carey.livejournal.com]

That it does.

I'd suggest using OK Cupid: you'd likely get the same kinds of responses (and non-responses), but at least you wouldn't be paying for it. (Also, I have a feeling -- not based on any fact, mind you -- that Match.com is a lot more hetero-centered. OK Cupid spans hetero, bi, & gay.)

[lothiriel-1.livejournal.com]

Hmmm... I'll go give it a look-see. Thanks!